That's Why We Are Grateful to Them by Bob Bernstein We are grateful to our gay children for what they taught us about truth-telling and respect for human differences. We are proud of their courage in refusing to lie - despite society's fierce hostility to their honesty - about an important aspect of who they are. We are outraged at the discrimination and physical violence that is commonly their lot. By reasonable estimate, there are at least 15 million gay Americans, most of whom are valuable citizens and valuable family members. They and their nongay loved ones - parents, brothers, sisters, cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents and friends - number in the scores of millions. So we are Moms and Dads with a dream: the dream that these millions will one day coalesce in a powerful crusade for the dignity and safety of our gay citizens. Our love for our children has brought anger and impatience. Impatience with talk about "family values" that translates into hatred toward our gay daughters and sons. Impatience with those who prevent schools from providing the courses and counseling that could save gay teenagers from despair, addiction, and suicide. Impatience with those who in the name of religion preach love, but practice oppression. Our gay children have decided - in defiance of a massive social tide of misinformation and hostility - that accepting their God-given natures is part of their quest for authenticity and wholeness. They have shown us honesty, courage and compassion. They are gifted and giving Americans. That's why we are proud of them. That's why we are grateful to them.

posted Feb 27